The decision to propose is a big one, and is something that you’re probably only planning on doing once, so it’s definitely something that you would want to be as special as can be, and this is understandable. A
As the wedding industry has grown in recent years and with social media influencing a lot of the styles and trends we’re seeing around things like wedding fashion making us feel like everything has to be completely high end and picture perfect, so if you’re planning to propose, but are on a budget and still want to make it memorable and unique to you and your partner, then in this post we’re going to share with you some of our top tips for doing just that.
Make sure it’s right:
As unromantic as it may sound, it’s important to let you know that first and foremost before you ever propose to anyone that you’re both completely ready and that it’s the right time. For example, many people often find themselves proposing for the wrong reasons, such as thinking it will be a grand romantic gesture that will score them points, or if their partner is really putting pressure on them to propose.
This is a recipe for disaster because if you have to propose to keep your partner happy because they’re giving you some kind of ultimatum, then this is a huge red flag and you really need to consider if this is the type of relationship you want to be in because anyone who is secure in their relationship doesn’t need to be validated through the status of engagement or marriage.
The only time you should be thinking of proposing to anyone is when you’re both in a committed relationship, have perhaps talked about marriage and know that you’re both ready and willing to take that next step.
Bring some tradition in:
Although modern weddings are seeing less and less tradition, there’s still some nicer traditions that you can always incorporate if you’re wanting to make things more unique that you can add in when you’re proposing. For example, the tradition of asking the woman’s father or parents for permission is a nice touch, and although some people will definitely disagree with this, you have to remember that this is still their child and they want to know that she’s with someone who loves and respects her and also respects them, so even if you don’t want to ask for permission as such, then even filling them beforehand and asking them to keep it a secret is likely something they’re really going to appreciate.
Understand their style:
Everyone has their own style, and this also should be taken into consideration when proposing to someone. Instead of just going and getting something that’s the first thing you see so that you can tick it off a list or even worse - something you think they’ll like, but you actually have no idea and are basically just getting something you like, then it’s a much better idea to go and find something like a specially designed engagement ring you had made for them that really captures who they are.
If you’re not particularly sure what their style is or you’re just not great at shopping for other people, then it’s a good idea to take along someone close to your partner who knows their style - such as a best friend or sister who can help you.
Make it memorable:
Getting engaged is definitely one of the moments in life that everyone wants to remember for the right reasons, so making sure the proposal is memorable is something that you should be focusing on making a priority. The good thing is that being memorable doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, but if you’re putting the effort in, then it will be memorable and your partner will really appreciate it.
Again, just like making it memorable, a proposal is something that should be tailored to the person as an individual. This doesn’t mean that you have to go for big grand gestures like proposing on top of the Eiffel Tower or something that might seem a bit cliche if that’s not what your partner is into. It should be about them and you - not for show, so this could be something as simple as taking them to a romantic nature spot you know they love or even going to the place where you had your first date or where you met for the first time.
It really is sometimes the smaller things and personal touches that make all the difference.
When it comes to marriage proposals, many people - both those being proposed to and those doing the proposing sometimes have over the top expectations of what things should like and think that everything should go perfectly, when in actual fact, this is going to set you up for disappointment, so it’s important to remember that you should be doing this in a way that works for both of you, that is personal, and that is also not going to be something you can’t afford - because then you’re losing all the magic from it, anyway.
Capture the moment:
We’re lucky to live in a time where we can literally capture our whole lives at the click of a button, and although this isn’t always a good thing, there are times - like special moments such as proposing when it’s definitely a good thing to be able to capture things on photo or video.
However, since you’re going to want to actually be in the moment instead of living it through a lens, then you should have someone else on board to capture it for you. This could be a friend or family member who you trust to capture the moment right or it could even be a professional who you hire for the moment if you can afford it.
It certainly doesn’t matter which of these options you go with - as long as you’re able to capture the special moment in your own way and so that you can always look back on it.